October 26th 2015 PDT
Julie B.’s Story Hello CoDA Family, My name is Julie B, a recovering codependent. I was a grateful member of the CoDA Board of Trustees from 2009 – 2012. Serving on the CoDA Board of Trustees accelerated my spiritual growth on the “diamond lane of recovery”. Here are some highlights: • I utilized the tools of our program; Steps, Traditions, Service Concepts, and Promises. • I practiced the spiritual principles in a safe setting with Board members, Committee members, Delegates, Fellow Service Workers, etc… from aro ...Continue Reading
October 20th 2015 PDT
Jenica's Story I was approaching my birthday and decided to write down some goals I hoped to see manifest by my 30th year ...Continue Reading
October 12th 2015 PDT
Do The Right Thing But make sure to participate and contribute to the world What matters most is your business and minding your business Be kind,loving,and peaceful Treasure every bit of magic you encounter along the way What is precious can be fleeting Think what you want but be mindful about what you say as well as how you say it Break the ...Continue Reading
October 5th 2015 PDT
ARE YOU SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? How are your relationships? Business? Personal? Family? Friendships? Romantic? Yourself? Any issues? Any recurring patterns? The first reaction is to blame it on the other party. It's easier to see the faults in others than in ourselves. Though relationships take two to tango. We must have had something to do with it. They say most of our problems are of our own making. So how do we honestly look at our part in our relationships and take responsibility for them so we can change a ...Continue Reading
September 29th 2015 PDT
But... I Joined CoDA To Stop Myself From Doing Too Much! (Excerpted From A Longer Article) I believe this issue is one of the reasons we've had so much trouble attracting new intergroup members. First, we do not encourage new comers to CoDA to join intergroup, there is much service to be done at the meeting level! But once one has 6 months - 1 year (depending on the person) service on a larger scale can be a wonderful opportunity to grow in CoDA. I've personally found doing service to be a great way to learn to set b ...Continue Reading
September 22nd 2015 PDT
My Name is Byron Hi, My name is Byron and I am codependent. My story to my codependent fans is one of heartbreak and one of discovery. A true novel! I am 25 and have had everyone around me for the last 16 years. I am putting the finishing touches on a divorce and I am alone for the first time in a long time. So now I’m dealing with 1. DIVORCE and 2. CODEPENDENCY. A double whammy and one that I do not wish on anyone. I went to my first meeting last night and was blown away that other people have the same problems tha ...Continue Reading
September 15th 2015 PDT
Laurel's Story I grew up the youngest of four in the 80s. My mother was the breadwinner and worked long hours. My father was the stay-at-home parent. In retrospect I'm pretty sure my dad has borderline & narcissistic personality disorders, as well as being an addict. Apparently when he and my mom met he was abusing narcotics. After they had their first child (my brother) he quit all illegal substances, but now--again, in retrospect--I would call him a "dry drunk". However, when I was a child and did not ...Continue Reading
September 8th 2015 PDT
We are having ALOT of problems with "keyword" spam filters, especially with smaller email providers. If you are not receiving our weekly readings & you wish to; please add "co-nnectionreadings@codependents.org" (without the quotes) to your contact list / address book / whitelist both on your account of your email provider's website and on any spam filters running on your computer. If you are subscribed to the Weekly Readings List & are not receiving the Tuesday mailings I can all but guarant ...Continue Reading
September 8th 2015 PDT
Susan's Story I grew up in an unhappy household. My parents argued and fought angrily all the time. There wer ...Continue Reading
September 1st 2015 PDT
My Story I am a Lebanese Muslim female in my late 40's, living in the UAE for the last 15 years. English is my 3rd language. I will do my be ...Continue Reading
August 25th 2015 PDT
My experience serving on the CoDA Board I will never forget the question arriving in my inbox, “Will you run for the Board?” I was stunned to think that someone thought that I might have something of value to offer our Fellowship. Within about a month I was voted to the Board of Trustees. During my 3 year term, I experienced every emotion possible – the first and foremost being fear. I found that my HP met my fear with great courage, strength and faith. I learned to work my program of recovery in a deeper manner. I use ...Continue Reading
August 25th 2015 PDT
My experience serving on the CoDA Board I will never forget the question arriving in my inbox, “Will you run for the Board?” I was stunned to think that someone thought that I might have something of value to offer our Fellowship. Within about a month I was voted to the Board of Trustees. During my 3 year term, I experienced every emotion possible – the first and foremost being fear. I found that my HP met my fear with great courage, strength and faith. I learned to work my program of recovery in a deeper manner. I u ...Continue Reading
August 18th 2015 PDT
Sometimes I Just Need To Keep My Mouth Shut Sometimes I just need to keep my mouth shut. I grew up believing that I had to save the world. Everything was crashing around me, my father’s drinking, my mother’s silence and denial. I had to keep myself distracted from the painful reality by keeping myself distracted. As I strip away my addiction ...Continue Reading
August 11th 2015 PDT
Wise Words Slogans have always appealed to me. I need things short and simple and, for me, slogans and phrases get right ...Continue Reading
August 4th 2015 PDT
Words Of Wisdom 2001 (A Collection of sayings heard at meetings) What someone else thinks of me is none of my business. Submitted by, RM With my Higher Power's help, everything that is possible, is possible. Submitted by Carole D The only meeting you are late for is the one where you miss the closing prayer. Submitted by, RM Our serenity level is inversely proportionate to our level of expectation. Submitted by Racquel M. Life is how YOU change it Submitted by Denise When I share in meetings, It is my job to ope ...Continue Reading
July 31st 2015 PDT
We have a favor to ask of our members who use Hotmail, Outlook or MSN. On the bottom of every email we send out there is a link that says, "Want to remove yourself from this mailing list at any time? Use this link:" & right below that, is a link. By using that method you can easily unsubscribe from the list. We would greatly appreciate it if you would not use the gmail "unsubscribe" or "spam" button. There are 2 reasons: 1. Everytime someone unsubscribes in that manner, Hotmail p ...Continue Reading
July 31st 2015 PDT
We have a favor to ask of our members who use gmail. On the bottom of every email we send out there is a link that says, "Want to remove yourself from this mailing list at any time? Use this link:" & right below that, is a link. By using that method you can easily unsubscribe from the list. We would greatly appreciate it if you would not use the gmail "unsubscribe" or "spam" button. There are 2 reasons: 1. Everytime someone unsubscribes in that manner, gmail puts it down as a neg ...Continue Reading
July 28th 2015 PDT
I Am Enough In a crowded mall this Christmas, I went to pick up a small utility item. I don't need to s ...Continue Reading
July 21st 2015 PDT
Love, Support and CoDA Through love and the support of CoDA, I have learned some astounding things about the God of my understa ...Continue Reading
July 13th 2015 PDT
The First Shame Attack The first shame attack that I remember was in kindergarten. Today it remains vivid in my mind, more than forty years later ...Continue Reading
July 7th 2015 PDT
"True Love In Balance" In recovery from codependency I discovered the patterns I learned long ago that prevent me from being authentic and allowing the unmet emotional needs of my heart to be met. First, I would anticipate what others wanted or needed and then I would accommodate those needs. If my needs were in conflict, I would acquiesce to the other person's ...Continue Reading
June 30th 2015 PDT
The following is the opinion of the writer (a valued CoDA member), & is NOT officially endorsed by CoDependents Anonymous. Importance of Working the Steps 1) What is meant by "working the Steps"? For me, working the Steps means studying them and applying them. I study the Steps by reading different literature like the CoDA pamphlets or other 12 Step literature, and attending Step meetings. By studying the Steps I come to an understanding of what they mean to me. Then I practice using them in my daily li ...Continue Reading
June 23rd 2015 PDT
Rewards of Recovery I could write a novel, however I have chosen to keep this brief. Recovery is living life. I started seeing a therapist one year ago, I was (like most Codependents) involved with an alcoholic. When I began to realize that I was just as sick as the alcoholic, I chose to end the relationship so that I could get better. I can honestly tell you that LIFE FOR ME BEGAN AT 30! I look back now and think that I was sicker than the alcoholic!!! (and he was the one who was nuts) I will tell you, recovery ...Continue Reading
June 15th 2015 PDT
I feel so lucky and blessed to have found CoDA My name is Marguerite and I am a recovering codependent. I feel so lucky and blessed to have found CoDA. I feel that my HP led me here, when I had no place else to go. For the first time in years, I feel hope and a sense of certainty that things are going to be okay, and that I am really, really okay, too. It hit me just a few weeks ago, as I sat alone, crouched in my own home with all the lights off, hiding. I felt helpless and things felt out of control. The police had ...Continue Reading
June 9th 2015 PDT
1 Year Birthday I’d like to preface my story with a disclaimer that the beginning of my recovery is a parallel with two 12step programs AA and CoDA. I’ll go between the two, referencing one and then the other, because both were crucial to my realization that I had the disease of codependency, as well as the symptoms (alcoholism and drug addiction) that manifested as a result of trying to selfmedicate and treat that disease. One year and one week a ...Continue Reading
June 1st 2015 PDT
Why do service work? How can service work advance my recovery? People get involved in service work for many different reasons. Some do it because they want to control what is going on in their sphere within CoDA. Others do it because they think that they are the only one who knows what i ...Continue Reading
May 26th 2015 PDT
Reward Of Recovery - 3 years later September 28, 2001 I've just celebrated 4 years in recovery. As I look back and read my initial one year anniversary letter, I see now that I had simply uncovered the tip of the iceberg. I'd established a foundation. What followed has been truly miracul ...Continue Reading
May 18th 2015 PDT
Enough My blessings overwhelm me Why am I afraid of stepping out further onto the fruitful branch? Am I not content with what I have? Is it not enough? When I was small I was never enough I never had enough or was good enough Those dissatisfactions came from outside disapprovals Now I am big and I surely have enough It’s time to step out far onto the limb to change, metamorphose the words... For now, the “not enough” is not about my dissatisfactions It’s about natural evolution of growth ...Continue Reading
May 12th 2015 PDT
Amends I have heard people in the program complain about others owing them amends. When the other person admitted their wrong doing and vowed to change the amends were not accepted because they didn’t say they were sorry. Is saying, "I’m sorry" an amends? Or is there a lot more to it. Webster’s definition for Amend (on the internet); 1: To put right 2a: to change or modify for the better 2b: to alter, to reform oneself Synonym – correct My first sponsor told me it was not important whether the person I was ...Continue Reading
May 4th 2015 PDT
Good Things I read the affirmation today, "I deserve the good things that happen in my life" and it took me by surprise. As a codependent from an alcoholic background my focus and energy was always directed toward preventing major catastrophes from happening to others and myself. It seemed as though the good ...Continue Reading
April 28th 2015 PDT
The Daily Eleventh Step When I first began in recovery, over eight years ago, I read in a daily meditation book about a woman who used the eleventh step as a guide to the other steps. As I was an experienced meditator I latched on to this concept. Meditation was a familiar tool, and I have used it daily to increase my understanding of all 12 of the steps. When I meditate, I breathe in harmony with the slogan "Let Go, Let God". I breathe out while holding in my mind the tho ...Continue Reading
April 21st 2015 PDT
Do you enjoy the weekly recovery readings? Do you like carrying the message of recovery? Would you like to be a part of the Co-NNections committee? If you answered yes to the above questions, WE WANT YOU!!! The Co-NNections committee is currently looking for new members. Skills that would be helpful could include: Excitement & joy about codependency recovery Knowledge of the Traditions Strong writing and editing skills Available for occasional teleconferences Email & computer skills Our major focus is o ...Continue Reading
April 21st 2015 PDT
I Am Healthy By Kay K. It is amazing to be able to say that! I will say it again, I am a whole, happy, healthy, loving woman. I was sick for the first 40 years of my life. Like millions of other human beings I grew up immersed in the family disease of alcoholism. For generations it has plagued my family. The unbalanced life I led is so common in our society; I didn?t know anything was wrong. I was a participant in the chaos, confusion, neuroses, pain and suffering, which is present in dysfunctional families. I call it ...Continue Reading
April 14th 2015 PDT
Recovery I look at the young child So free and so wild. She seems so unsure Like there is something more... She lives through the days Looking for ways To make it okay Through night and through day. Her home’s a disguise she sees through her eyes. Something’s not right, So she put up a fight. Her soul is pure her heart is gold, She wants a hug, a hand to hold. It’s just not there She wonders why... So many times she starts to cry. “It’s not your fault!” I try to say To make ...Continue Reading
April 7th 2015 PDT
We have discovered since we started sending you the readings in the actual email that smaller service providers using enterprise spam filters such as Barracuda & Spam Assassin are frequently marking our readings as spam & not delivering them. Unfortunately it's takes very little to labeled as spam (our last 2 sendings had huge problems with that), & it is very inconsistent what will cause one of the thousands of filters used to do so. We ask that you add co-nnectionreadings@codependents.org to your contact ...Continue Reading
April 7th 2015 PDT
Death and Recovery Last year a former member of my CoDA meeting, Toni, committed suicide. She attended the meeting for about two years and moved to another city. Toni maintained a strong friendship with another member here, Lesley. One Monday, Toni didn't show up for work. Lesley expressed concern and fear as she processed what sh ...Continue Reading
March 31st 2015 PDT
Helpful Affirmations I am accepting of others and myself. I am confident! I am flexible, friendly, and fulfilled. I am self-affirming. I experience joy. I am a spirited and spiritual person. I feel blessed to have many opportunities in my life. Today, I ch ...Continue Reading
March 25th 2015 PDT
The Daily Eleventh Step When I first began in recovery, over eight years ago, I read in a daily meditation book about a woman who used the eleventh step as a guide to the other steps. As I was an experienced meditator I latched on to this concept. Meditation was a familiar tool, and I have used it daily to increase my understanding of all 12 of the steps. When I meditate, I breathe in harmony with the slogan "Let Go, Let God" ...Continue Reading
March 19th 2015 PDT
Amends I have heard people in the program complain about others owing them amends. When the other person admitted their wrong doing and vowed to change the amends were not accepted because they didn't say they were sorry. Is saying, "I'm sorry" an amends ? Or is there a lot more to ii. Webster 's definition for Amend (on the internet); 1: To put right 2a: to change or modify for the better 2b: to alter, to reform oneself Synonym - correct My first sponsor told me it was not important whether the ...Continue Reading
March 11th 2015 PDT
Acceptance to Grace There are times in my life when circumstances arise that I want to be different, that I feel are unfair, that test my will and patience. What I am learning and living is that God's grace is always there if I ask for it. When I try to control my emotions, when I try to control circumstances, when I try to change others I make my self sick with worry and lose my connection to all th ...Continue Reading
March 4th 2015 PDT
Boundaries Boundaries are borders We draw to preserve, The distance between What's mine and what's yours They keep pain out and peace within, And are a necessary tool If you desire to win This game of life So complicated it seems, As if heaven could only exist in a dream These boundaries help us create peace on earth And remind us of our Natural rights from birth In recovery we're reminded of this awesome truth, So we own our power with no excuse. Jennifer T. (2009) If you have written an inspirational short pie ...Continue Reading
March 1st 2015 PDT
The contents of this email are from the CoDA Co-Nnections committee, co-nnectionreadings@codependents.org To our valued CoDA Fellowship Weekly Reading Subscribers: Great news: The weekly recovery readings have returned! You will likely be receiving the first one within the next week. At least in the short run, the reading will likely be in the email you receive from this list, rather then just a pointer to the website as you received in the past. Our long term plan is to use both methods; if you have any feedback on ...Continue Reading
November 11th 2014 PDT
The contents of this email are from the CoDA Co-NNections committee, connections@coda.org Dear Weekly Readings Subscribers, I'm happy to know that many of you look forward to the Weekly Readings and saddened that it has been awhile since a different Weekly Reading has been posted. It's been one month since the new Co-NNections website was finished. The problem that we have is a technical issue with the software used to create this website. "Mura" is the software platform and doesn't have a random pag ...Continue Reading
November 9th 2014 PDT
We've received emails from several CoDA members asking why we have not sent a Weekly Readings Reminder in quite awhile. The answer is that when the CoDA.org website was re-designed Co-NNections was given a new website; though it will appear to you that you are still on the main CoDA site. That site is not ready yet, & it is not currently possible to post new readings; hence we haven't been sending the reminders. Also for the same reason, the links in previous mailings are no longer functional. There is a partia ...Continue Reading
August 8th 2014 PDT
We've received emails from several CoDA members asking why we have not sent a Weekly Readings Reminder in quite awhile. The answer is that when the CoDA.org website was re-designed Co-NNections was given a new website; though it will appear to you that you are still on the main CoDA site. That site is not ready yet, & it is not currently possible to post new readings; hence we haven't been sending the reminders. Also for the same reason, the links in previous mailings are no longer functional. There is a partial ...Continue Reading
August 7th 2013 PDT
(Mailing list information, including how to remove yourself, is located at the end of this message.) We're sending you this email to let you know of a change in our email list software's unsubscription process. You can no longer unsubscribe on the website. The only way to unsubscribe at this time is to click the unsubscribe link in the email you receive. If for any reason that doesn't work; please email codalist@codependents.org or respond to any list email & I can unsubscribe you manually. We apologize for this c ...Continue Reading
April 17th 2013 PDT
(Mailing list information, including how to remove yourself, is located at the end of this message.) For unknown reasons, the unsubscribe links in our bulk email program are broken for some users (including myself). The programmer is on vacation until May 1st. He has been informed of the issue by email. If you wish to unsubscribe before then & are unable to, please email us at this address & I will manually unsubscribe you. Geff R CoDA Email ...Continue Reading
August 29th 2011 PDT
(Mailing list information, including how to remove yourself, is located at the end of this message.) *********************************************************************************** The new Co-NNections weekly reading has been posted. To view it, go to: http://coda.org/week-read.php *********************************************************************************** To forward this email to a friend, please click the link below. https://codependents.org/cgi-bin/dada/mail.cgi/archive/connections//#forward_to_a_frien ...Continue Reading
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