Realizing the Twelve Promises

I attended my first CoDA meeting 30 years ago when I was 22 years old. My father, a recovering alcoholic, heard about it and suggested I go.

Back then, I was ungrounded and paying attention to everyone else but me, internalizing everyone else’s moods and feelings and acting out. I did not know how to get quiet and feel my own feelings.

Believing, trusting in, and turning my will over to my higher power resulted in miraculous changes in me. I learned to let go and stop controlling others, to feel and focus on me. I learned to love myself and others in healthy ways.

The 12 Promises of CoDA have truly been realized by me. I have used my spiritual awakenings for service and have received so much in return. I have spent many years starting meetings and sponsoring members. It is a joy to watch other members transform and heal and thrive. It works if you work it. So work it, you’re worth it!

Catherine E. 06/22/22

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