CoDA Weekly Reading Archives

 

CoDA Weekly Reading 1/19/21

January 19th 2021 PST

“A letter to myself” Hello, I would like to share an AHA moment when I was reviewing my notes. I am currently on Step Nine in CODA so I went back and reviewed Steps 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8. In Step 8 it mentioned make Direct Amends to all people you have harmed. Of course, I naturally made an Amend to my Higher Power but then came the AHA moment. The person I needed to make amends to was ME! So I wrote a letter to myself. Hopefully, my letter will help someone in their journey of recovery: Dear Li ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 1/12/21

January 12th 2021 PST

“Entering CoDA has made me aware” After being in an eight year long relationship, where we broke up and returned four times, it came to an end. From the first breakup I knew I couldn't live without him, I just remembered the good. We tried it three more times, we were even going to get married, but again my deepest fear came back. I no longer trusted him. I couldn't look him in the eye anymore. However, when I was alone, I would forget that and I would want to return to this pointless relationsh ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 1/05/21

January 5th 2021 PST

My Lizard Brain Existence I am a grateful, slowly recovering Codependent. I first thought that I had a cat and a dog as pets. However, recently I have discovered a whole other type of a pet which is very different and very destructive one called my lizard brain. I have been learning from my CoDA meetings, sharing, listening to others, as well as through seeing therapists and self-motivated reading on my own that most of my decisions are based upon fear. Fear of rejection, ridicule, the unk ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/29/20

December 29th 2020 PST

“This journey of uncovering, discovering, and healing” From the outside looking in, my childhood was perfect. A mom, a dad, two kids, and a three car garage. As a family, we ran a second generation business and took a vacation at least once a year. I couldn’t even begin to count the number of friends who envied my life. My mom was the golden standard for polishing the appearances to the world, and no one ever really knew about her mental illness or my dad’s alcoholism. Being the baby of the fam ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/22/20

December 22nd 2020 PST

Keep Telling My Story In my family of origin, keeping secrets was sometimes the “spoken” but more often the unspoken rule. My Dad was an addicted gambler and serial adulterer and Mom was an alcoholic. Yet such facts were hardly ever articulated and any verbalization of these truths resulted in knee-jerk reactions of denial, minimization and most of all, rage. Consequently, throughout my childhood, I was never sure what was safe for me to say and consciously doubted many things that I intuitivel ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/15/20

December 15th 2020 PST

“I can be grateful and enjoy it” I talked with my coworker today. She was frustrated because she had so much to do at work. I listened. "It sounds like today has been a tough day for you, " I said after she had finished talking. "I have to go back to work now." I left her office and returned to mine. As the day continued I kept thinking about my coworker's frustration and wondering how I could help. Should I speak to my boss? I asked myself. Because of CoDA I told myself, &qu ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/15/20

December 15th 2020 PST

“I can be grateful and enjoy it” I talked with my coworker today. She was frustrated because she had so much to do at work. I listened. "It sounds like today has been a tough day for you, " I said after she had finished talking. "I have to go back to work now." I left her office and returned to mine. As the day continued I kept thinking about my coworker's frustration and wondering how I could help. Should I speak to my boss? I asked myself. Because of CoDA I told myself, &qu ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/08/20

December 8th 2020 PST

The Importance of Remaining Open The other day while walking the dog with my husband, I was talking about my shutting down and isolating process. I was able to explain to him how it happened to me by following my codependent umbilical cord back to the beginning. Being raised in a strict, abusive household and learning early that I couldn’t trust anyone, I was forced to run away at the age of 14. On the streets, there were even more people posing as friends, teachers, doctors, and therapists. ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 12/01/20

December 1st 2020 PST

“Today I stopped!” It’s late or early, 1:00am, you decide. It always starts with a feeling in my gut that something isn’t right. I get anxious and I fight with myself and I give in! I grab my recovering addict husband’s phone and off I go on detective mode. At least that was what I would do but not today. Today was different. You might wonder... “What was she looking for?” I was looking for clues to the toxic story that is set to play on repeat in my mind—almost as if I’m collecting evidenc ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading: Call For New Submissions

November 24th 2020 PST

Call For New Submissions! Have any of the Weekly Readings or Meetings-in-Print been helpful or thought-provoking for you? Please tell us how CoDA has impacted your life. Sharing your experience, strength and hope may help thousands of codependents still suffering. Everybody in CoDA has a recovery story to tell. Consider submitting your story and sharing your insight with other CoDA members! Email: [1]wr@coda.org Some Possible Topics: (Could include, but not limited to) 1. Sharing St ...Continue Reading
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