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July 20th 2021 PDT
The Sunken Place I wrote this as I was entering another relationship where I knew I would lose myself to their desires and wishes, where I already saw the pattern happening that I had played out so many times before. I wrote it before I knew I was codependent or why I kept going through this. I wrote this because I was terrified, because I felt like I was about to lose myself all over again, and nothing is scarier than that. The Sunken Place My weakness brings me to my knees But not in ...Continue Reading
July 13th 2021 PDT
Hot Mess My life before CoDA, well let’s just say it was a “Hot Mess” I have been in one toxic relationship after the other. I found myself always choosing partners that had a long laundry list of problems: drugs, alcohol addictions, emotionally unavailable. For as long as I can remember, I was accepting of my partners’ unhealthy habits, even thrived on them in a way I guess you could say. Thinking I could be the hero in their lives. Yes, I was going to be the one to make a difference in the ...Continue Reading
July 6th 2021 PDT
MY STORY as I grow in recovery, I grow in greater self-love ~ in the discovery of who I am. All else fades away. The pain gets less every day. As balance comes to play~ I know one day this skin I'm in, will feel easier to live in~ one day at a time. By, Alison M. - 2/2021 Everybody in CoDA has a story to tell. Sharing yours may help thousands of codependents still suffering. We are always accepting submissions. Please contribute your experience, strength and hope by ...Continue Reading
June 29th 2021 PDT
‘Loyalty to Self Needs Always Comes First’ I was raised to be pleasing to other people. On both sides of my family, my job was simple. Make us look good. Obey. And keep your mouth shut. I became so adept at these things that I completely lost any sense of my true identity. At the age of 19, I was suspended from college in an alcohol-related incident that had codependence and sex addiction at its roots. Exiled to a farm in California (a nice farm, but still), I was blessed to receive a book from ...Continue Reading
June 25th 2021 PDT
‘Living Gratefully’ Through my recovery in a 12-step program, I have learned to live the type of life I was created for, happy and in peace. I discovered what Carmen thinks, feels, and wants. How Grateful I am. Before Coda, I did not know what the purpose of my life was. I will live a life surrounded by my codependent patterns, a disaster, chaos just by simply reacting to what happens at the moment and not thinking of healthier choices. My emotions were imbalanced. My codependence patterns w ...Continue Reading
June 15th 2021 PDT
I am feeling grateful to be recovering and recovered from codependent behaviors in my life. I was raised in a large family - with much-disorganized dysfunction and verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. As I write this, I do not remember having low self-esteem as mine is so strong now and I act upon my courage instead of fears constantly. As a child control was not given to me, so I based my esteem on taking it by getting good grades and trying lots of sports to “own” my body. Yet I so nee ...Continue Reading
June 8th 2021 PDT
“In this moment I know this pain will end and I am grateful.” I’ve lived long enough on this earth to have experienced various painful moments, even painful seasons of my life. I’ve felt loss at the death of a loved one and loss of a loved relationship. I’ve also experienced the extreme joy of bringing new life to the world. Pain and ecstasy in just that one experience of childbirth. I’ve known joy and happiness. Both are as necessary to me as day and night are needed. I need a time to be active ...Continue Reading
June 1st 2021 PDT
"Thank You, God, Now I Know” My introduction to Coda came to me via an assistant to my psychiatrist who really did understand my life and me better than the doctor herself. Like most people during that time, it came being given a book, dealing specifically with the characteristics of codependency and through the assistance, and working with the doctor after a hospital episode for depression. It was terribly painful reading certain parts of the book and so I was advised that I should probabl ...Continue Reading
May 25th 2021 PDT
‘‘I Thought I Knew What Love Was’’ I thought I knew what love was. I thought I had been in love. For a long time, the love I knew was egotistical. It was jealous, it was possessive, it was controlling and it was heavy. It was phone calls asking where each other was and who was there. It was phone checking and name calling throughout arguments. It wasn’t love it was unhealthy obsession. Then in my thirties I found a knew love, an unfamiliar love, a soulful love. It was light, it was joyful, i ...Continue Reading
May 20th 2021 PDT
Do you love reading? Do you benefit from hearing recovery stories? Do you love listening to the heartbeat of someone's writing? Do you have a knack for editing? Do you love helping someone make their voice heard? Are you drawn to doing service work, but are scared of what that might mean? We need you- Because being scared is normal and humble. Step out with HP and serve with us, as we grow in our own recovery while carrying the message to codependents who still suffer. Once a week the ...Continue Reading