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May 11th 2021 PDT
The Road to Serenity and Peace Part of learning to love myself is being unafraid to show myself. I am an artist and a poet even if not professionally. There is nothing more authentic to being me, than revealing this side of myself that I usually keep hidden within the pages of endless journals never really seen. This year, I challenge myself to be authentic in all ways. I am learning to rid of my Peacemaker self, embrace my ugly shadow self, and learn to love all of me. I struggle immensely whe ...Continue Reading
May 4th 2021 PDT
Systems: A Magic Word The Welcome has this extra word in it that doesn’t seem necessary on first reading. “...codependence...is born out of our sometimes moderately, sometimes deeply dysfunctional families and other systems.” Why not just families and other dysfunctional groups? What is meant by systems? Coda documents, especially the Welcome, say a lot in a few words. Thinking this through has freed me from blaming and shaming by reminding me I have been formed and continue to be swayed by ...Continue Reading
April 27th 2021 PDT
Today’s Meeting today's meeting is for shedding old patterns and and learning anew today's meeting is for affirming my good and sharing my truth of pain. today's meeting is for empowering and recovering from shame. Everyday a meeting, one day at a time, healing my story for God's glory. Sara Everybody in CoDA has a story to tell. Sharing yours may help thousands of codependents still suffering. Please contribute your experience, strength and hope by emailing your ...Continue Reading
April 20th 2021 PDT
Codependent Dollhouse At 8 years old, I had 4 gorgeous dolls and one short stocky, sarcastic doll who would cut the other dolls down to size by bombarding them with humorous sarcasm and wit, leaving them confused and put in their place. I really identified with this short doll, but where did I learn the sarcastic wit? I felt my family was a big part of that. Always saying whatever it took to disarm me and keep me under the heel. I practiced, honed, and developed a biting wit. Sarcasm has al ...Continue Reading
April 13th 2021 PDT
Many Years I Struggled with My Thinking For many years I struggled with my thinking. I often occupied any spare time with worrying about other people and my relationships. I could sit in a room for hours and just think, and think, and think! In a sense, I felt comfortable and at ease alone with my thoughts, even the dangerous ones. Obsessing about other people was like my secret power. It seemed to get me the best things in life. I was a “good girl”, a rule follower, and a people pleaser. I got ...Continue Reading
April 6th 2021 PDT
‘I Always Thought Codependency Only Had to Do with Romantic Relationships’ I always thought codependency only had to do with romantic relationships, and since I didn’t have issues in that area, I didn’t think it applied to me. However, when I learned codependency can show up in any relationship, I soon realized I had been living my life in a way that was making me miserable and was starting to destroy my relationships with family members. To put it simply, I was becoming more and more obsess ...Continue Reading
March 30th 2021 PDT
In my worst of times, after naming the issue codependency, for relief I used to wait on the edge of my seat for Tuesday's CoDA readings. I used to cry a lot and wished that everyone understood my pain. Sometimes I pictured myself drawing and spelling my pain out to all my loved ones, in the forms of tantrums and self-sabotaging disasters. Now it's been two years since I joined and I would like to claim I feel healed in many places, but perhaps not ever yet fully. I catch myself all the time, won ...Continue Reading
March 23rd 2021 PDT
‘CoDA has Given Me a Space and Structure for Healing’ Growing up, I was rejected by my dad and enmeshed with my mom. What that meant for me was that I was left with no sense of self. I had to do exactly what my dad said or I would be shamed or punished, and I had to do exactly what my mom said because if I didn't, she would abandon me, I would be left with no one. Until joining CoDA, I continued to look for what I should think, feel, and do in others. I learned at an early age how to be an emot ...Continue Reading
March 16th 2021 PDT
"When I First Realized That I Was Codependent" So it starts out when I first realized that I was actually codependent, that it really hit me. I finally figured out WHY I was never comfortable just being alone in my own skin. I always had/have to be with someone to be happy. After a while, I started getting obsessed with it. And worried that I’ll always be alone. That’s when I realized there was something wrong. So I reached out for help. Someone mentioned “CoDA” meetings. And I thought ...Continue Reading
March 9th 2021 PDT
Meeting in Print (MiP), a CoDA Co-NNections subcommittee, is proud to announce that the latest issue of its publication, themed "Live In The Moment" MiP is a quarterly publication that gives you the feeling of a live meeting while opening up space for texts, poetry, artwork and even music to help the CoDA community towards recovery. Each edition contains the following elements required in a CoDA group: * Welcome * Preamble * Twelve Steps * Twelve Traditions Al ...Continue Reading