CoDA Weekly Reading 3/14/23

From: "CoDA Weekly Reading" <>
Date: March 14th 2023

 Overcoming Obstacles

My name is April, and I am a codependent. I didn't say that out loud until I came to my first CoDA meeting six months ago. Before that, I only identified as "addict.” I was in recovery for my addiction in another fellowship, staying clean, had a sponsor, worked all 12 Steps but something still wasn't working. I wrote multiple inventories, but I still hated my mother. In 2022 my physical health was really declining and I had to have multiple surgeries, including a full colectomy. I was in pain all the time and I wanted to die. I had no hope and I cursed the "God" that I used to know. I felt as if I was being punished. I was isolated and alone.

Then I started to feel better, I came "out of the woodwork" and tried to re-enter my life, work, my usual meeting, and my relationships. I thought everything was going to be amazing, but what happened was a "switch" turned back on and I got into the codependent crazies. My daughter was living in a motel, my best friend owed me hundreds of dollars and was also living in a motel, I was managing an outpatient substance use facility, and my boyfriend at the time was dealing with a serious mental health issue. I could not stop obsessing about them. I could not stop myself from endlessly talking about them to anybody who would listen. And then I stopped...and I thought, "oh my God, I am right back where I was twenty years ago when my sister was addicted.”

A colleague suggested I try a CoDA meeting and I have been coming ever since. I finally can see that what was underneath my addiction was all of my childhood trauma and the impact of growing up in a very dysfunctional system. I found a temporary sponsor and started working the Steps and then I found a Power of Five group. We just finished up Step Two. I broke up with that boyfriend, I cut ties with that "best friend,” I stood up for myself at work, and I recently told my adult daughter it's time for her to move out on her own. I have never felt so confident and empowered in my life.

Every day is a codependent challenge, opportunities to learn and grow present themselves with every interaction I have. Today, I can say how I feel and I don't feel bad for saying it. My physical and mental health have never been better. I am reconnecting with little April. She has a voice now and I have her now. I can reparent little April and ask her what she needs, and I can get my own needs met. I live in peace most days and I am on my journey towards finding a higher power that works for me. Setting boundaries with my family has been the most difficult, but it's worth it.

I wasn’t sure if CoDA was for me, but I gave it a shot and started attending meetings. What did I have to lose besides my insanity and my misery? Today I can say my affirmations. I can look at myself in the mirror. I no longer tolerate dysfunction and I am surrounding myself with people who see my worth, because now I am starting to see it. I am precious and I am free!

April M. 2/1/23



Everybody in CoDA has a story to tell. Sharing yours may help thousands of codependents still suffering. We are always accepting submissions. Please contribute your experience, strength and hope by emailing your story to


You can review previous 2015 - 2022 readings here: .

Older readings are here:

If you have a friend who would like to subscribe, please have them go here:

If you have a general question about CoDA (as opposed to the specific content of this email), please email

If you wish more information by phone, please call (888) 444-2359 {Toll free} or (602) 277-7991.

For Spanish inquiries you may email or call (888) 444-2379 {Spanish toll free}.

  • This mailing list is a public mailing list - anyone may join or leave, at any time.
  • This mailing list is announce-only.

Each week, subscribers will automatically receive an email with a new "recovery reading". Hopefully, viewing this member created work will provide subscribers with thoughts to reflect upon during the remainder of the week.

Privacy Policy:

Per the 11th & 12th Traditions this list is private.