I joined CoDA in September 2019, and that was my first experience with 12 Steps. In CoDA I have learned about my codependent behaviors and how they are not who I am. I have mourned the damage that my codependence has inflicted on my children, my co-workers, and the suffering it has caused me.

I can now identify my behaviors when I am in them or shortly afterwards. I now look for internal validation. This has been and continues to be very challenging for me.  My initial reaction is to seek to have my needs met externally. Now I know that I can meet my own needs. I am learning to let go and to understand that not letting go is codependence.   

My tears for the damage I caused have dried up significantly and I am now working the Steps and ready to put everything into healing. Step 3 has already been a game changer. Thank you CoDA. I will keep coming back.

Mubanga C – 9/28/21

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