CoDA Weekly Reading 08/25/20

 
From: "CoDA Weekly Reading" <co-nnectionreadings@codependents.org>
Subject: CoDA Weekly Reading 08/25/20
Date: August 25th 2020

Hello, I just wanted to share that throughout my life I've struggled with codependency. I used to do things for others to make me feel better. It was so bad that I would give into my children out of guilt and remorse for the fact that I was an addict. After getting clean and sober and a lot of reading on codependency I realized how truly self centered I really was. Most of my choices and actions were made on the basis of “how will this make me feel?”

I used to think: “oh, he's been through so much…” I instinctively knew that I was not able to watch or feel the emotional upheavals of saying no, without any explanation. I also learned through Al-Anon that paraphrasing was so valuable. I did not realize that I often was not hearing what the other person was saying. By applying this method to my everyday communication, I am able to say, "what I'm hearing you say is…” What a difference this has made in my life.

Setting boundaries was so important in all my relationships. I learned that if I don't set boundaries with others they will assume that what they say or do is perfectly okay! Learning the different techniques through CoDA and Al-Anon and applying them has made my life—as well as my loved ones’ lives—so much, much more beneficial. I'm still learning and growing. I still make mistakes concerning setting my boundaries, but today, I can forgive myself and try to do this the next time I'm placed in these situations. Thanks for allowing me to share today.

Best regards,
Deborah T - 6/20/20

 

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