CoDA Weekly Reading 03/31/20

 
From: "CoDA Weekly Reading" <co-nnectionreadings@codependents.org>
Subject: CoDA Weekly Reading 03/31/20
Date: March 30th 2020

My Codependent Journey

I had been drifting in and out of the realization of my codependency for many years. The day it hit home for me was in a relationship with someone I cared about deeply. My life became focused on this person in unhealthy ways. I began to be controlling, trying to fix things, fix him. I was judgmental, and very hurtful, then on the flip side, loving. An abundance of emotions began to surface that I could not understand. There was a lot of push and pull. I wanted to be close, but was afraid / guarded. I didn’t want to keep hurting him, so we talked and I took a step back to figure things out. Initially, I did not know where to look or what to do.

The word codependency came to mind. I looked it up and sure enough, it described me. Then I found out about CoDA in my area. This is where I began to take an honest look at my destructive patterns. I began to understand where my other problems lay: with work, relationships, my life as a whole. Everything had become unmanageable. Hearing the stories of others as well as sharing a bit of my own helped me to gain perspective. I started to evaluate all my relationships and realized that similar patterns existed in ways I hated to admit. Taking ownership for my part, has been a difficult journey. It has been about 6 weeks in CoDA. I have been reading the materials and other things to try to understand these patterns, choices and behaviors that got me to this point, learning how to make a change. There is a lot of work ahead – a life-time journey, in-fact. This is a second chance at learning to have healthy relationships, with myself and others and things. Day by day.

I wear a portion of the serenity prayer on my wrist to remind me: "God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” And so the journey is beginning.

Ale - 3/2020

 

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