CoDA Weekly Reading Archives


CoDA Weekly Reading 3/20/17

March 21st 2017

I have been with CoDA since June of 2016. I was in a marriage where I was constantly doing for my husband what he needed to do for himself. There was a lot of abuse and I was constantly chasing him and letting him use me as a doormat because his own addictions came first. My ex-husband has a god and it's not me. My survival tools from childhood were no longer working for me. My counselor told me about CoDA and I'm slowly understanding why I do what I do. I divorced in September of 2016. 2016 was a trying year and I loo ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 3/14/17

March 14th 2017

A letter to my husband: I am very sorry it has come to this. It is not what I envisioned for myself or us. I frickin’ hate the breaking up part, but I have to be honest and say that I am happy. I finally know that God loves me and that I can really trust him. It is hard to explain because I have been saying those words for a long, long time, but it is not until I finally learned that I am worthy of being loved that I learned to stop expecting perfection of myself and was able to truly experience the love of God. The ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 3/7/17

March 7th 2017

Good morning everyone, I am Sarah, my life is very good. It's taken me 57 years to honestly be able to say that, to feel "I'm ok" without guilt and one eye on the person beside who I was trying to impress! I'm free from the burdens I carried around all these years..... my mother’s illness, my dysfunctional childhood, all the wrongs I experienced, my dead marriage, my less than perfect life!!! I GREW UP! I realized only recently that although all these "terrible" things had occurred in my life, they ...Continue Reading

CoDA Meeting In Print Sub-Comittee Seeks New Members

March 5th 2017

The contents of this email are from the Meeting In Print Subcommittee of the CoDA Co-NNections Committee Hi CoDA community, Our new publication, Meeting in Print, is looking for two new members to join the work with delivering this increasingly popular CoDA recovery tool! We're looking for a Vetting Member and a Multimedia Member, see descriptions of what these members would do below. VETTING MEMBER * To look through the archive of submissions we have and: Organise them logically according to length (sh ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 2/28/17

February 28th 2017

Like many before me, I crawled into my first CODA meeting on my knees. I had struggled with 'life' for many years, but somehow managed to 'get by'. However in the autumn of 2014, something occurred. It was, in truth, nothing new -- another relationship failure. Then - a strange thought came into my head. Codependency. I had no idea, at the time, what on earth that meant. I now interpret it as my higher power telling me my issues were not to be solved on my own. I didn't even know what codependency was - there was no al ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 2/21/17

February 21st 2017

I only recently discovered that I suffer from Codependency when I made the very difficult and painful decision to separate from my my husband ... my best friend and soul mate of 28 years. We have only been married for 11 of those 28 years, but we may as well have been married the whole time. Though I have struggled with depression, anxiety, PTSD and ADHD for upwards of 35 years, there was really only one common thread through all of this..... my need to make everything OK and everyone happy, but neglecting my own needs ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 2/14/17

February 13th 2017

I came to CoDA (and, for many years, Emotions Anonymous) because I was in danger of losing my marriage as well as my relationship with our kids. I was raging constantly. I got into my marriage with the notion that I was the center, I was to be catered to., I would fly into a rage if my loved ones crossed me, disagreed with me, weren't able to be with me when I wanted them to be with me or give me what I thought I needed. I would fly into a rage simply if things didn't go my way (in which case I would find someone to bl ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 2/7/17

February 7th 2017

My codependency began in childhood from my father's emotional and verbal abuse. As I developed adult relationships, the pattern of attracting men that were controlling and abusive continued. I knew of the abuse in my 30's but eventually ignored it until I was in my early 50's and having ended an abusive relationship with an alcoholic. I am now fully aware of the abuse and my codependency. My sister is still in denial about our childhood and is married to a verbally abusive man. I know I need to get back to the Coda gro ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 1/31/17

January 31st 2017

I've just become a part of CoDA. Though I've just begun to learn the teachings, I already feel by being a part of this group that this is just the beginning of an amazing recovery. I can't wait to see what's in store. I just don't know if my story is cohesive.... it really began when I realized I was married to someone I would consider a narcissist. I reported my husband to the army Family advocacy board and they denied my claim for emotional abuse because it didn't meet criteria their computer system generates from vo ...Continue Reading

CoDA Weekly Reading 1/24/17

January 24th 2017

Hi, My name is Kate, and I am codependent. Those words seem so simple and strong, which is in stark contrast to the way I feel on my journey at times. I started CoDA 3 months ago when a coworker mentioned it to me. It has since been something I look forward to each and every week. I'm new to 12 step programs in general, but am loving the program in its entiriety. My codependency is deeply rooted in my childhood having grown up with an alcoholic and narcotic abusing older brother and having severely codependent paren ...Continue Reading
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